"Children Learn What They Live"

“If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.

If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.

If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.

If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.

If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.

If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.

If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.

If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.

If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.

If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.

If children live with acceptance, they learn love.

If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.

If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.

If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.

If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.

If children live with fairness, they learn justice.

If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.

If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.

If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.”

Written By Dorothy Law Nolte

Homebound Activities

Games

Go through your game closet!

  • Monopoly (takes a long time) and we have time!

  • Yahtzee (excellent for multiplication table review)

  • Trouble ( fine motor and counting skills for younger children)

  • Clue (great for older teens)

  • Charades

  • Jacks! We used to play Jack’s for hours in the summer months!

  • All card games!!! Learn some new games. Cards can also be used to practice math facts while your kids are home. 

For example: Using the game of War, each player flips 2 cards instead of one. Depending on the skill your child is at have them add, subtract or multiple the cards. The game continues as a regular War game.  

https://bicyclecards.com/rules/

https://playingcarddecks.com/blogs/all-in/40-great-card-games-for-all-occasions

Puzzles

Our family always enjoys large puzzles on vacation. It is usually the only time we get to do them. Find an empty table where the puzzle can be out for family member to work on it.

Start an Indoor Garden

This is the perfect time to start an indoor garden. This will be a daily activity of watering the seeds and watching them grow. It is beneficial for children and adults by providing structure and accomplishment. It is also just really nice to watch things grow. 

https://www.almanac.com/gardening/planting-calendar

https://www.planetnatural.com/growing-indoors/

Helping at Home

  • Cooking

I love to make vegetable soup with my kids. It is a way to clean out 

our  refrigerator. Soups also freeze well.

  • Setting The Table

https://www.realsimple.com/holidays-entertaining/entertaining/how-to-set-a-table

  • Spring Closet Cleaning! Perfect time for your children to go through their closets!

  • Plan a formal dinner. Kids can even get dressed up for the occasion. 

  • Basic Chores. You now have time to teach and structure a basic chore chart. Children want to feel needed and helpful. 

Letter Writing, Gratitude & Wellness

  • Given the current situation many of our elderly population is cut off from family and friends. Have your children make homemade cards and send them out to relatives and friends. 

  • Support local restaurants with take -out. Each family member can pick their favorite.

  • Start an online meditation program. For kids Headspace is very friendly and I have used it myself. There are many different programs, chose the right one for you! Many are offering free subscriptions now.

  • Activity Jar: This is great for younger children. Find and old jar in the house and decorate. Write down all the activities, projects and games on paper. Fold them up tight and put them in the jar. When boredom arrives have them choose an activity from their jar.

Exercise

Our dog has been really happy this past week with extra walks! Keep exercising and getting fresh air. We have also been seeing other people walking which helps with the feelings of isolation in the home.

  • Set up a daily chart for exercise and monitor progress! See results and stay strong

  • Hopscotch https://www.parents.com/fun/activities/hopscotch/

  • Stoopball/ Curb ball (this can be player alone)

  • Jumping Rope

  • A, MY NAME IS ALICE! Oldie but goodie

    The basic idea is to start with the letter A and go all the way through the alphabet. For each letter you will need to think quickly and give a girl’s name, boy’s name, city/state/country, etc, and an object that begins with the next letter of the alphabet.

    A my name is Alice and my partner/husband/wife is Al, we come from Alabama and we sell apples.

    Starting with all (A)s, you plug the (A) words into this chant while bouncing the ball rythmatically. If you hesitate or lose control of the ball, you start over. 

There are plenty of online exercise videos.

Movies

  • Pick Movies which may correlate to your child’s history curriculum

  • Watch a series that you never had time to complete (Star Wars, Marvel, Harry Potter) Spread it out over the next couple of weeks

  • Watch an old classic movie with your kids from your childhood

Driving Practice for those with Permits, the roads are much less crowded.




Is Homework Stressing Your Kids Out?

Homework can be stressful for many reasons. After a long day at school with academic and social demands children might be depleted and need time to reset and clear their brains for a fresh start on their homework and studying. When one is tired work can take longer because of inefficiency. 

If your child seems exhausted after school, starting homework right away may lead to more stress and frustration. As a mom of four children I do realize that after school activities take up time and scheduling homework in between can be challenging. I plan ahead and each day is different.  However, in my experience, children have a more positive outlook about their assignments and increased energy with a break of 20-30 minutes after after school. Keep in mind all children are different and will need different amounts of rest at different times.

Consider the following Strategies to help your child tackle homework and studying after school. 

I have also included links for further reading. 

SOS

SNACK:          Have a snack choice out and ready to go. I opt for more protein based snacks. 

OUTSIDE:     Especially on beautiful days, being outside is critical for calming one’s mind. There is an incredible amount of research on how important it is for people to be outside. There are plenty of activities depending on your child’s interests. Walking a family dog, tending to a garden, playing sports or even a mini scavenger hunt.

SPACE: Homework space should be kept equipped with supplies. Computers should be charged and ready.  Younger children will need help organizing. Older students should work towards keeping this area ready.

https://news.sanfordhealth.org/childrens/play-outside/

https://bettersleep.org/uncategorized/teens-and-sleep-2/



Challenges for Preschoolers with ADHD transitioning to Kindergarten

The start of a new school year is approaching and many children will make the giant leap from preschool to kindergarten. Some children will transition with ease, while others will struggle with the new school setting. 

A new study, published July 21, 2019 in Pediatrics from The Stanford University School of Medicine found children with ADHD are significantly less prepared for kindergarten and start developmental behind their peers without ADHD. Researchers used five areas to measure the children’s functioning: language development, physical wellness and motor development, general knowledge and cognition, social and emotional development, and approaches to learning. Executive function was included in the approaches to learning assessment. 

Children who scored more than one standard deviation below the mean were considered to be impaired in that subset. This study considered children delayed in two  of the five categories listed to be “unready” for elementary school. 

Children with ADHD were 73 times more likely than children without ADHD to be impaired in all areas with the exception of cognition and general knowledge (Perrin, Heller & Loe, 2019).  

ADHD can be difficult to diagnosis in preschoolers because many of the symptoms associated with the disorder, including impulsivity, hyperactivity and inattention are considered typical behaviors for children in this age group.  If concerned about these characteristics in your child, it may be beneficial to both consult with a professional and partner with the appropriate school faculty.

Below are some guidelines and strategies to help parents who are concerned about their child making the transition from preschool to kindergarten. I have listed them according to the five areas measured in this study:

Physical Well Being and Motor Development

Sleep: American Academy of Pediatrics recommends, depending on age, 10-13 hours of sleep nightly, including naps. Implement what is necessary for your child.

Diet: A balanced diet fuels one’s brain and body. Consult a nutritionist if necessary.

Motor Development: Utilize good old fashioned toys including  tricycle/bicycle, jump rope, blowing bubbles, playdough, bouncing balls ( incorporate language & rhyming games to maximize benefits), painting (use an easel), coloring, puzzles, hopscotch. These types of activities address gross and fine motor development and hand eye coordination. 

Relaxation: Yoga, meditation, quiet story time, slow walks may familiarize children with emotion regulation strategies.

***I recommend concerns with motor delays be addressed by a physical and or occupational therapist specializing in this age group.

Social and Emotional Development

Playdates: Consider the length, location and number of participants; some children are more successful with specific parameters. Discuss expectations before the playdate (ex: sharing toys).

Emotion Regulation: Work with your child to develop strategies to implement when struggles arise. Exhaustion and/or hunger may triggers for meltdowns.

Role playing and modeling appropriate behavior: One can set an example for learning.

Classes & Activities: When possible have your child choose activities which interest them and allow them to feel successful. 

Language Development

Reading & Music: Spend time reading to your child, with your child, or listening to books on tape and music.

Cooking: Preparing meals together exposes your child to a different type of language, incorporates math, advances fine motor skills and may expand one’s palate. 

***For concerns indicating speech and language delays I recommend seeking expert advice from a speech & language pathologist experienced with this age group.

Approaches to Learning

This area predominantly relates to executive function: time management, organizational techniques, emotion regulation.  

Specific strategies can be implemented to help children with executive function and should individualized to one’s child.  

*** Trained educational strategists with background working with ADHD can be helpful to maximize your child’s skills.

Cognition & General Knowledge

This particular study did not find children with ADHD to be impaired in this area. General knowledge and cognition can be enhanced through activities such as reading, educational television programs/movies, and visits to historical sites/museums in addition to other supports. 




Snow Day Cooking

Cooking activities provide an opportunity for children to learn and practice math and science skills, while simultaneously incorporating fine motor development, life skills and creativity. In addition, reading recipes requires processing and following directions. Cooking is also an opportunity to spend time together as a family and teach your children about health and nutrition. For small children cooking allows for learning through one’s senses.

Valentine’s Day is approaching and today maybe a great day to try some of these fun recipes.

Happy snow day!  Stay safe.

https://www.parenting.com/gallery/easy-valentines-day-recipes-kids?page=8

https://www.pinterest.com/kidscookmonday/kids-cook-valentine-s-day/

https://overthebigmoon.com/kid-friendly-valentines-day-menu-ideas/


Strategies To Regulate Screen Time

Many children use their electronic devices several hours or more a day.  Social media, TV programs and video game times can quickly add up. One must also take into account non recreational screen time spent doing school work.  These activities equate to time not spent socializing in person, playing outdoors, sitting with family or exercising.

On September 26th, 2018 researchers published in Lancet a new cross-sectional observational study evaluating a balance of behaviors, including physical activity, sleep and screen time which affect cognitive development. The findings indicate limiting children’s screen time to less than two hours a day  with benefit to one’s ability to acquire knowledge through activities, and ultimately contribute to brain and cognitive development in children and adolescents.

The article below provides a concise overview of how far scientists have come with understanding the actual effects of screen time and brain development.  Practical implications are identified and the article is straightforward.

Sukel, K. (2017, November 6).   The Truth About Research on Screen Time. retrieved from http://www.dana.org/Briefing_Papers/The_Truth_About_Research_on_Screen_Time/#_ednref22

I have summarized some practical strategies to help your child find a healthy balance using their electronic devices.  

  • BE SAFE: Be aware of what your children are doing on their computers and phone. I recommend an open dialogue. At about  age of 17 many children will leave for college and need to know how to make safe and good choices. This skill evolves through time and experience and you are in the position to educate and guide them while they still live at home.

  • Have a plan and a schedule for when computer time is allowed.

The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends and individualized family approach to the appropriate amount of screen time.

www.healthychildren.org/English/Pages/default.aspx

  • Refrain from phone usage at the dinner table. Turn it off or silence it.

  • Discuss the research with your children, sharing both the positive and negative; this is a discussion to understand and develop one’s own sense of self regulation.  

  • Strive for balance - our children live in a different world then we did growing up. Their worlds are very technology dependent, considering this fact is helpful.

  • Offer alternatives ( games, activities). I always carry a deck of cards with me. Card games can be played anywhere, reinforce math skills and are social. Game playing developes use of eye contact and reinforces social cues, skills that one cannot hone from a computer or phone.

  • Give choices. Providing your children with controlled options gives a sense of power over what they do and can help them be more cooperative. For example, asking “Would you prefer play your hour of video games between the hours of 4pm-6pm or 7pm-8pm?” is likely more effective than you dictating the one and only option.   

  • Remember, everyone has unique family dynamics and different situations require flexible parenting skills, do what is most effective for you and your family.



Effective Study Habits: Scientific Research Supports Spacing Out Studying

As the school year is now underway, students will begin to learn all the material needed to ace their tests and exams. Many students will resort to cramming last-minute for their exams, which is proven to be an ineffective way of retaining information. Cramming can cause students to become more stressed and anxious because of time constraints, while in turn, spacing out the material can prove to be more effective.

The term “spacing effect” is the situation whereby learning is increased when studying is spread out over time, as opposed to studying the same amount of material in a single sitting. There is extensive research which has been conducted to show the benefits of spacing out studying. However, many of our children insist on cramming material prior to an exam rather than studying and reviewing over time.

Students tend to be mislead about understanding their own study strategies and performance by assuming a short term performance will equate to long term learning (Bjork, 1994, 1999)

There are occasionally short term advantages to cramming, such as a possible increased score on an exam, however, the information is short lived in one’s memory; meaning the information is not retained and long term learning of information is not solidified in one’s long term memory.

A 2010 study from the Department of Psychology from University of California, Los Angeles analyzed the “spacing effect” in an everyday study task of flashcard use. This particular study showed the spacing effect works even on a smaller scale of time.

Researchers aren't exactly sure why spacing is so effective. One likely reason may be that over time people forget what they learned in their initial study session. Then, when they come back to the material later, the new study session jogs their memory and they recall what was learned the first time around. The process of forgetting and then retrieving information helps cement the new knowledge in place.

Bottom Line: Help your children get into the habit of studying material as it is presented. It will help them be prepared for pop quizzes, cement new information into long term memory, and leave time to talk to teachers if they need clarification on material.  Being prepared is an effective way to help reduce anxiety and stress.